This month, like almost everyone else in the world, I began 2016 with a resolution. When I was younger all my resolutions had to do with my weight, I would tell myself I’d lose that 10-20 pounds and become a skinnier and prettier version of myself. An idea constantly reinforced by weight loss commercials (which are a load of crap).
This year instead of making resolutions that insinuate that I’m not great as is (because I am) or have to do with my rocky relationship with what my scale says. I’ve decided to go about 2016 differently, so my new year’s resolution is to treat myself better. I’m totally guilty of treating those around me better than I treat myself. I’ve always been a very supportive friend, who listens and is always there. I’d never tell my friend they’re dumb when they’re struggling to understand something, tell them they can’t wear something that they like or that they shouldn’t eat something. Though I’d never dream of speaking to them that way, but I often find my inner monologue isn’t as kind when it concerns myself. I shouldn’t treat myself like that and neither should you.
Most people I know, myself included, have this problem with putting other people’s needs before their own. For example, I will forego sleep in order to help a friend (and trust me I love my sleep) which is okay to do in small doses but I have a hard time saying no to those I love. My inability to say no often leads to me getting little sleep and getting behind on my homework. I’m not saying stop caring about other people but it’s important to take time for ourselves and make sure we’re happy
I’m going to make 2016 a year where I focus more on what I want in life and treat myself how I treat those I value most in my life. Which means less negative self talk and not ignoring what I want. I’m going to take time for myself and make sure I’m happy. I hope this year turns out to be a good one full of personal growth.